The Trans Ninja by Mac Scotty McGregor

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by Mac Scotty McGregor

What’s a Ninja? Definition: Japanese, from nin- persevere, conceal, move stealthily + -ja person

What’s Trans? Definition: Trans is a Latin noun or prefix, meaning “across”, “beyond” or “on the opposite side”.Trans may refer to: Contents. 1 Gender; 2 Geography; 3 Media; 4 Music

I’m both.

I’ve always lived a different and out of the box life; but in the last few years it has become even more fascinating. Since legally changing my name and gender on my identification documents, I’ve had fun with some everyday tasks in life.

I recently had to have a remote reprogrammed by the geeks who drive love bugs; you know who I’m talking about. All of my old programming and purchases from the home theater geeks was in the old name and gender marker. After half an hour on the phone to even get an appointment for the geeks to come out to do the job, and the phone geek struggling to look up my history – the man on the phone says, “We found stuff at your address under the woman’s name Sherry.”

Now how should I handle this after already being on the phone for thirty minutes, with my girlfriend in the room? I just said to the guy, “Could you please take her name off of my account? That’s my ex-wife.” My girlfriend laughed out loud. I looked at her, gave her a wide smile and shrugged.

MacwithRainbowThe man said “Sure, sorry about that, sir.”

“No problem,” I said. Sometimes it’s much easier to be a ninja in this crazy world as a transgender person than to try to explain it all to everyone.

Not long after starting medical transition and before my name and gender marker were changed on my insurance card, I had to go to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription. When it was ready the pharmacist called the name on the prescription. I walked up, and he looked right at me and said, “Are you picking this up for your wife?” I paused, took a breath, and said, “Sure I am.” He told me what to tell my wife about the drug, and I walked away chuckling about my zany life.

This brings us to the conversation of how many judgments we make about people by outward appearance. While campaigning for marriage equality, I found this especially perplexing. Being under treatment for gender reassignment and having my doctor’s official letter to explain that I was able to legally change my gender marker on my ID, this meant that I could now legally marry a woman, even though I still do not have a permanently attached penis, which too many people in our society think is what makes a man. There were times speaking at a rally or events for marriage equality, I wanted to drop my pants on the stage and say, “I can legally marry a woman” just to blow people’s minds and get them to see that this is not about what is or is not in one’s pants.

Because I easily “Pass” in our binary gendered society, unless I choose to divulge that I am transgender in most of my daily life no one would know. Some people think that “Passing” gives me privilege, and maybe at times it does. But “Passing” also shows me the absurd ways most of us make judgments.

When we talk about privilege, we have to ask, what exactly does that mean? Does that mean I need to lose my true or full identity to fit in, so that others can feel more comfortable?

I’m mostly open and out all the time, and as most of you know, I’m a very open activist, but when I just go to dinner, I don’t walk in and announce that I am transgender.

I’ve learned over time and with experience that there are times to educate and there are times that it’s best to be the trans ninja. I sometimes take a step back and evaluate how will people best receive and be open to listening to me? In my humble opinion, we can make more positive change by being warm, friendly, and respectful even to those who don’t get us right now.

headshotThis brings me to a funny story. I walked into a well known leather shop one night. There were two guys working there, and they were chatting. After greeting me and asking if I needed help, they went back to their conversation, which was about someone transitioning. These two guys looking at me had no idea that I was trans, so they felt comfortable talking openly about this. As I was looking through the racks of leather clothing and listening to this conversation, I was debating whether to get involved in it or not. It had been a long day and I was tired, but about that time one of the men made a comment that I could not ignore. He said, “I can’t understand why anyone would want to take testosterone. They are never going to be able to grow and actual penis, so what’s the point?”

I laughed out loud; it just came out of me. The two men stopped talking and looked at me. The man who said this then walked over closer to me and said, “I have a friend who is a girl and is considering transitioning, which is why I am researching this because I am concerned about her.” I told him I educate people on sexuality and gender and asked what he was concerned about? At this point I realized that these two cis-gendered men would take what I had to say better if all they saw me as was the guy’s guy, to me the trans ninja.

For twenty minutes I stayed and talked to these men about being transgendered, the treatments, the effects, and what trans people have to deal with. I explained that it is important how one feels inside not just about the exterior. I went on to describe how hormones usually make a transgendered persons feel better inside their body. I explained how the body and mind are a better fit with the hormone.

I asked them to imagine that they never felt their body matched who they felt they were inside. I also gave them a scenario to think about that addressed their concern that it was all about having a real penis or not. “What if tomorrow one of you was in a bad accident and your penis was mangled or dismembered? Would you still be a man, or no longer a man?”

1427591719954“Wow, I never thought of it like that,” one of them said, as the other scratched his head. If it’s the penis that makes the man, what about the many men that have one that doesn’t work well? Are they still full men?

I could have chastised them for their ignorance and come out in a way that would have humiliated them, but I dare say if I took that angle, their minds would not have been as opened as I believe they were by my talking to them with respect. I also believe that choosing to take the higher road of kindness even though they said some ignorant things, brought us to a place where I could give them my card and they could actually hear me. If they choose; they could then look me up and find out from my bio that I’m a transgender LGBTQ activist.

And I hope they do. I have to admit that I would love to see the look on their faces at that moment of realization.

Be on the lookout for when and where the trans ninja will strike to educate again.

Biography:
Mac was appointed by the Mayor of Seattle to serve on the LGBT commission since 2011, and is proud to be a voice and is proud to be an activist for civil rights and voice to represent the transgendered and gender non-conforming community.

He is involved in Ingersol Gender Center in Seattle, a member of the Seattle Men’s Chorus and a board member for Seattle Counseling Center. Mac speaks on gender panels and is an educator and activist on gender, sexuality and LGBTQ rights and issues.

flag 2Mac is one of the highest ranking martial artist in the world and has always used his extensive martial arts knowledge to empower others to have confidence and live safely. Mac is a world champion martial artist and former U.S. Karate team member. Mac has coached 58 national champions and 29 Junior Olympic champions. He holds Black Belt ranking in 17 different styles of martial artists as well as a certified defensive tactics instructor for law enforcement professionals. Mac has appeared on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Learning Channel, The Discovery Channel and in “People Magazine” to name a few. Mac now teaches self-defense, martial arts, tai-chi wellness and energy seminars at conferences, businesses & groups all over the world and is a life coach and sought after motivational speaker.

Contact Mac: Website, Twitter and Facebook.

 

Pride and Prejudice by Diane Marina

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By Diane Marina

Recently, I traveled to Philadelphia to attend a publishers’ conference. I’m originally from Pennsylvania, and despite living outside of the state for the last 20+ years, Philly in particular holds a special place in my heart. The city is where I spent much of my free time after coming out in my 20s. Philly was the place I turned to when I wanted to visit a gay bookstore or lesbian nightclub. So traveling to the city was a trip I was looking forward to. Walking down Spruce Street, toward the center of the Gayborhood, filled me with happiness and fond memories. Rainbow-colored street signs dotted each corner while short-shorts-clad men darted in and out of shops, holding hands and loudly celebrating a warm, sunny Sunday evening. As I meandered through the streets, I followed a straight couple, exhibiting similar PDAs. The male swung his arm casually around the woman’s shoulders as they treaded along the busy sidewalks ahead of me. A male couple holding hands and swinging them between their bodies, passed us and suddenly, the scene went from a carefree day to a disturbing scene. The male in front of me stopped and turned his head to watch the men, an obvious sneer on his face. He turned his head until it would turn no further, made his displeasure clear, and then continued on his way with his arm tight around his significant other.

Pause scene right here. If we’d been in a television sitcom, a sound-over of a needle scratching across a record would have been the perfect soundtrack. This was THE GAYBORHOOD, and it’s 2015, right? Things should be so much better than they were 20-odd years ago when I walked these same streets and saw the same reaction. I was disheartened as I returned to my hotel.

Despite the fact that 20 years have passed and gay couples displaying affection are still getting reactions like the one I described above, there has been some forward movement in my home state. Sure, same-sex marriage was legalized in the Keystone State in 2014, but prior to that, there was no recognition for civil unions or domestic partnerships, and it was the last state in the northeast to legalize same-sex unions.

HSML-cardAnother discouraging fact is that Pennsylvania is but one of 15 states that have hate crime laws that DO NOT include crimes against others based on sexual orientation or gender identity. And in recent months, three 20-somethings, two males and one female, were arrested for allegedly assaulting a gay couple who walked by them in Center City Philadelphia. The attack came after the couple was met with slurs, words were exchanged, and the physical violence ensued. I think how quickly the scene mentioned above could have resulted in the same consequences had the male couple seen the look of disgust thrown their way, and wonder what the solution is.

Now, I’m not specifically picking on my home state – I just expect better from my fellow-Pennsylvanians. If we can’t feel safe and protected in the City of Brotherly Love, my safe haven as I was coming of age, what hope do we have that we’ll be welcomed anywhere else? We need laws on the books that protect us, but more than that, we need a better education system that teaches that we are not a community that deserves sneers or violence directed at us.

Authors Michael Bronski, Ann Pellegrini, and Michael Amico sum up the solution in their book, You Can Tell Just by Looking: and 20 Others Myths about LGBT Life and People. “We need to address violence and hatred on the most basic interpersonal levels and at the level of small communities. Working within communities, schools, neighborhoods and organizations to examine the racial, economic and psychological reasons that are often underpinning these crimes will move us beyond the simplistic rhetoric of an ambiguously defined ‘hate’.”

And we in the community need to do our parts by continuing to be brave like the couples strolling hand in hand. Education begins with visibility – we need to come out and be as open as we can by being every-day examples of why we deserve respect.

Happy Pride!

Reference
Bronski, M. Amico, M., & Pellegrini, A. (2013). You Can Tell Just by Looking: And 20 Other Myths about LGBT Life and People. Boston, Massachusetts: Beacon Press.

MarinaBio
Diane Marina lives in the US, and is she is the author of the short stories Landslide and Imperial Hotel, as well as a full-length novel, How Still My Love. Look for her upcoming collection of short stories, It’s Only Love, coming this summer.

When not writing, she spends her time working toward a degree in Sport and Health Science, reading, hiking, running, and traveling. When she’s not traveling, she’s dreaming of all of the places she’d like to visit.

Contact Diane: Website, Amazon Site, Facebook, Twitter and Email.